Friday, November 30, 2012

Take Back & Funny Infertility Friday

Thinking I should take back the comment that femera doesn't have any side effects. This second round I have really noticed them. I am also on a higher dosage. Dizziness is the worst, headache, backache, and nausea. I thought it was a miracle drug compared to clomid, wrong. Oh well I only have this cycle and one more before I start my Follistim, so I can definitely deal with it.

 Had my blood work done on Wednesday for my RPL. Waiting to hear back. I know that the karotyping can take up to five weeks. I hope that I get my other results before then. I have already prepared myself for everything to come back normal with the exception of maybe vitamin D defecieny. That seems to be pretty common.

Funny Infertility Friday. Sorry if I have posted this one already, I am running low on pics :) Hope everyone has great weekend.

 BTW::::CycleSista's are back in commission. For the longest time it took you to the bike link. If you click on mine at the top right, it will take you to their page.

Wednesday, November 28, 2012


Without grossing anyone out with details, this cycle has been a "ball buster". I have never had such horrible cramping and bleeding, ever! The only thing I can think of is, this was my first real cycle since the ectopic in September. I was bleeding almost everyday from August until my levels hit zero again in November. So I really just assumed the bleeding after hcg went away was my CD1 and it probably was, but this was the first cycle with my body trying to get back to normal. Anyway glad the first two days are over and I am feeling better today. Tonight I will start my 7.5 mg of Femera and have my u/s on December 7th. 

I am really starting to second guess myself at this point. I know we can't afford ivf again without taking out loans and that isn't an option for us right now. We plan on moving to Colorado in a few years and want to put $ into house so we get more out of it. Plus we are still paying back the 401K Loan that my husband took out for the ivfs we had. Which may I add was a great idea. Low interest and while most 401K's were losing money, since we had loan out on it, we weren't effected. I guess things are really starting to hit me and I just don't see how any cycle forward is going to be successful when the most aggressive treatments were not. Of course I googled the success rates etc. Problem is, just because (5) woman out of 1,000 had success doesn't mean it will happen to me. I am at a crossroads big time. I will blame most of it on this time of the year. I hate this time of the year with a passion. It is filled with bad memories and I just want January to get here.

I tried talking my husband out of putting up Christmas decorations this year. He really wants to. I told him that was fine, but I am not putting anything up or taking it down. I just don't want to deal with it. Not because I am bitter either. I have NEVER liked Christmas. Well maybe when I was like 5 and there was a Santa Claus. Christmas music makes me want to slice my wrist with a butter knife. I am not a fan of the ugly Christmas sweaters or the reindeer car ornaments. Thank goodness I only have my sister and her family, so I am not forced to spend countless hours with each of our families during the holidays. We do go to Al's family's house for a day or two. I like to give Christmas presents early. So really just call me scrooge, because I am.

Guess that is all of the ranting for me today. Please universe let the next month fly by quickly. Let tax season hurry up and get here so I can deduct over $20,000 in medical expenses this year and hopefully get a break on my taxes... That is my Christmas wish for this year. 

Had all of my bloodwork done today for recurrent miscarriages, plus my karotyping. Will keep you guys updated on the results.

Monday, November 26, 2012

Loft Renovation Pics

It is hard to get good pics of the loft because it is so small. We tore down all the old wood paneling that was bowing and hanging. Since our house is super small at 1200. We have two bedrooms down stairs and then the loft upstairs. Cierra liked it up there so I decided to turn the downstairs bedroom into a craft room/office. Here are some pictures from our renovation that took all weekend long.

As you can see, it was pretty dark, nasty and almost scary up there!

Before you look at the new pics, please remember my daughter is DIE HARD ONE DIRECTIONER (that means fan, but the kids call themselves directioners). She also picked out the laffy taffy yellow room.

It is hard to tell in this blurry photo, but we laid down laminate flooring over in the cubby corner that the wall was knocked down.

Also on Thanksgiving, we took  our nieces to spend the night with us (Thanksgiving tradition). We went downtown OKC so they could see the Christmas decorations going up around the Devon Building. All of the decorating is still going on, but here are some pics!

Unfortunately all these pics were taken with my husbands phone because he took the memory card out of camera and left it at home. Yes I might have been a little upset with him.

 TTC Front:

Go in on Wednesday for baseline and start Femera 7.5 .

Sunday, November 25, 2012


I hope that everyone had a wonderful Thanksgiving and Black Friday weekend. I personally don't go shopping on Black Friday, but did order a t.v online and got great deal. Today I am braving the crowds at the mall to take my daughter shopping for clothes. This year with her being 15, all she wants is new clothes and shoes. So since I am completely nontraditional, she is getting her Christmas present today. I am probably the only person in the world that absolutely depises Christmas. I hate what the holiday has become. I don't like Christmas music, I hate Christmas trees, the little reindeer horns and noses for peoples cars drive me insane. I do suffer through the holiday due to the fact that my husband loves Christmas. Just a heads up, you won't see me wearing any Christmas sweaters etc.

Well our Thanksgiving weekend went pretty well. I stayed very busy. On Friday we had my Sister and BIL come help us rip down paneling in the loft (Cierras room) and hang sheetrock. Whoever built this house decided that would paneling was super awesome and covered the whole living room and loft in it. Problem though, our living room ceiling is super high and we have the wood beams running across. To fix that paneling would be so hard! I hope that changing out what we can will make a difference on resale when we move to Colorado. I worked in loft for about 10 hours yesterday taping and mudding, then painting. I hope it turns out great. My hubby is going to finish it today while we are out shopping.

On TTC news. Today is cd1 and it looks like I am completely back on schedule. AF started on exactly day 10 as she always does. I knew from the beginning that something as simple as femera and TI wasn't going to fix a problem that IVF and IUI couldn't. It was still nice to try though :) This month I am raising my femera to 7mg and see if that does anything. My husband told me this morning that his insurance is being changed at work from Aetna to Cigna. I wonder if that means we might get possible infertility coverage? I am kinda excited to hear about the benefits. Hopefully at the very least it still covers office visits, u/s and bloodwork like now.

Well have a great day!!!

Thursday, November 22, 2012

Happy Thanksgiving

Thanksgiving Day is a jewel, to set in the hearts of honest men; but be careful that you do not take the day, and leave out the gratitude.  ~E.P. Powell

Wednesday, November 21, 2012

November ICLW

Hi bloggers visiting from ICLW! Welcome to my life :) Here is a little rundown:

I suffer from secondary infertility. Had my daughter in 1997 and no luck since then. 

My husband and I tried multiple rounds of clomid and natural cycles before being referred over to the RE.

We were accepted into a study called A.M.I.G.O and were able to have four medicated iui's with Menopur. This study was for couples with unexplained infertility and no other issues. We ended up with two chemical pregnancies.

After failed iui's I had a hysterscopy to see removed adheisons from my uterus.

Moved on to ivf. 1st one we transferred to grade B embryos day 5. Had a very hard transfer due to ridges on my uterus and it took over an half in half. Very tramatic on my uterus and probably a big reason it failed.

Had another hysterscopy to remove ridges off my uterus and fibroid behind my cervix.

Moved forward with ivf #2. This time we transferred (3) grade b (3) day embryos and I started getting positives on hpts at 9DPO. Was feeling good. Started spotting and thought it was implantation. First beta was 58 at 10Dp3DT couldn't believe it. Second beta was 158 at 12Dp3DT. It all went down hill after that. Still spotting daily, my numbers continued to rise but not appropiately and I ended up in the ER for ectopic pregnancy. After 7 weeks of crazy hcg bloodwork etc. my levels finally hit zero.

We are now 5DPO on femera with trigger and TI. Unfortunately we can not afford anymore ivf's. Hoping to start iui with Follistim next February. Until then we will do a few cycles of femera. OF course I am not hopeful that this will work after all else has failed. I am thankful to be back in the ttc game though. 

Thanks for stopping by my little end of the world!

Since I won't be at work Friday, here is Funny Infertility Friday Early Edition:

Tuesday, November 20, 2012


thank·ful  (th
1. Aware and appreciative of a benefit; grateful.
2. Expressive of gratitude: a thankful smile.

I have so much to be thankful for. As many of you bloggers who have followed me for years know, my childhood was stolen away from me. I sit here today and I am so thankful that my daughter never has to know what it feels like to be beaten, or to be sexually abused by multiple family members. Most importantly she will never know what if feels like to be left behind by her mother. If it wasn't for the painful way I grew up and the hard lessons I learned, then I would not be able to have the sense of gratitude that my daughter never goes through it.  I am thankful that I was finally able to grown into a beautiful woman. After years of drug abuse and being addicted to anyone that would love me or give me attention for five seconds. I was in such a dark place in my life for so many years. It honestly took my father dying for me to be able to start the healing process. Then I met my husband who saved my life in so many ways, he will never even know. I am thankful for my sister who went through this life with me for so many years and grew up to be the most loving mother I have ever seen. Despite all the statistics stating my sister and I would grow up to be abusers or to be involved in abusive relationships. To be dependant on the state, or to become drug users, we defied all the odds. I am thankful for my life.  Many of our family members werent so lucky. They fell into drugs and horrible and hurtful lifestyles. We never had anyone to look up to while growing up. No one to ever show us right from wrong and pure clean love. I sit here and look back to all those years and I can't believe I turned out to be the person I am today. Whatever happens to me in my life from t his point forward will never compare to that pain. I sit here today and again say how thankful I am for my life, pure and simple. 

I hope that every single person reading this blog today can sit back and think of one thing you are truly thankful for. 

Monday, November 19, 2012


Andrea from Palm Trees & Rainy Days! The winner was picked by using

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TTC Front: 3DPO

Well we might have missed our prime ovulation day due to sleep. My RE told us to trigger on Thursday. He also said to BD on Wednesday just in case I decided to ovulate early. We did Wed, Thurs, totally forgot Friday and then back to BD on Saturday. Not sure our odds are very great this cycle. Well honestly, at best I think our odds of success is really around 3% on TI cycle? I have been drinking my cherry pepsi and had a glass of wine on Saturday night. I guess I am not feeling this cycle at all. After coming out of a year of strict diet, no caffeine etc. I am just going with the flow right now.  Sorry if that sounds bad, but it is just the way things are right now.

To make things sound even worse ( I doubt I will have any blogger friends after this comment). I am SO sick and tired of whining infertiles. I am NOT talking about the ones who just suffered a miscarriage or a loss. I am talking about the ones that constantly whine and complain. I just want to scream at them. As bad as we think we have it, I promise there are so many others who have it SO much worse! I am not known for being all positive and shitting rainbows, but jeez sometimes we need some damn rainbows! IS being negative all the time changing your situation? Yeah I didn't think so. We are ALL strong ladies who have been through our own hell and then some. Wear it as a badge of honor and fight for what you want. Become more educated, become an advocate, help others whom are suffering.

Friday, November 16, 2012

Funny Infertility Friday!

TTC Front:

Triggered Yesterday :) Another day and I will be entering the tww. I hope everyone has a great weekend. Any big plans?

Thursday, November 15, 2012


I started this blog truly thinking it would be a place for me to talk about feelings due to infertility. I was just starting out and very confused on why I wasn't getting pregnant, but definitely optimistic. The first year I didn't have hardly any followers. I believe for about a solid 9 or 10 months I had about (5). Who would have thought that today I would be saying thank you to (100) followers. Not only followers, but people who care enough about me to stop by and read my continueing journey? There aren't many words that can describe how thankful I am to have so much support here. I have friends and some family that are aware of my struggles. Besides my sister and a few friends, we don't recieve any support. In fact it is a hush hush subject. I guess people think if they don't talk about it then the problem disappears, but as you know, it does not. We have to live with this disease every minute of every day. So you all can understand how much it means to have supportive woman that will be there to pick you up on a bad day, or give you a hug on a good day. 

Thank you for helping me through this battle.

I am doing a give-a-way for my 100 followers Anniversary. 
 In order to enter for this drawing is simple. I want to know ONE thing about you that is NOT infertility related: It can be anything, so please share with me. I will post the winner on Monday, November19th. 

(If any of you have done something similar to this, how did you generate a winner fairly?)

Oh without further adue, here is what you will win:

I apologize that I cut half the picture off. You get one Apple Jack & one Pumpkin homemade natural soap from Lillasyster. I buy alot of her products and there is only one word to some them up, AMAZING! 

Hope you enter to win! Again thank you ladies :)

Tuesday, November 13, 2012

CD12 Ultrasound

I went in at 8:00 this morning for my CD12 ultrasound. My only hope was, I had more then one follicle to work with this cycle. I have two on my right ovary measuring 17mm each and my uterine lining is at a 7 today. He told me to give my follies two more days to grow and trigger on Thursday. He told me to start TI on 14th-17th. It feels so weird to be taking such a huge step back from IVF and this is huge! I would absolutely lose my shit if one of these TI cycles actually worked! I don't feel to hopeful this month because my right tube is possibly blocked according to my HSG I had done. I know that you can ovulate through either tube regardless what side, but I still think about it :) Here's to being back on the saddle again


I will update my E2 levels later today.

Monday, November 12, 2012

To Sew or not to sew

That is the question....

I think it is very possible I may indeed be to much of a perfectionist going into this sewing journey. I was very happy that after six hours yesterday I figured out how to thread needle and attach to bobbing when it comes apart (Sad huh). Oh whoever made the picture instructions and/or written instructions obviously did it for someone that is NOT a sewing machine virgin. I sat there yesterday and just stared at my machine, looked at the parts and finally figured things out. Since I made such an accomplishment with that, I figured what the hell, and tore my whole first blanket apart and started over. The second is better, but I still see crooked lines in it and I hope its not enough to make me take this one apart also and start over again. If I keep the way I have been going, I will never have the stupid thing done. I am waiting until Christmas and taking quilt and machine to my MIL in Arkansas to help me machine quilt it and put on binding. I just hate when it takes me such a long time to figure something out and do it right! Obviously that is why we are still working on the pregnancy thing for almost three years (Lol. Sorry couldn't resist on that one).

Well here is a pic of my (somewhat) better quilt topper. As of today it will live another day.
 As you can see I am trying to add white border all the way around it. As of now I have stopped to figure out if it needs to come apart again.

Baby making news:
U/S Tomorrow
Trigger Shot ?

Saturday, November 10, 2012

Mom & Daughter Day

Well Al went to Arkansas this weekend to visit his family. They called us Wednesday night asking if we wanted to come up this weekend for early Thanksgiving. I already had plans to get mine and Cierra's hair done today. We stayed home and Al took his dog Porter for the weekend. 

I had a really nice day with my teenager today. We had our hair done, went out to early dinner and then I dropped her off at a friends house. They are going to watch a movie then come back here and spend the night. 

I colored my hair dark brown with red highlights. Cierra went with a brown and blonde ombre color.

The owner of the salon asked if Al has quit feeding me. Confused I answered no? Then she went on to say I lost a lot of weight and look really skinny, SCORE!! I told her it was the fertility drugs making me swell up like a blowfish and now I am finally losing all of that. What a nice compliment to receive. It totally made my day :)

CD9 and started peeing on ovulation strips... Only one line today. Doctors appointment on Tuesday.

Friday, November 9, 2012

Funny Infertility Friday Plus

Okay since nothing much embarrasses me, I will share this story with you. My husbands dog Porter has a habit of eating out of the trash can, my underwear, Al's underwear, socks and anything else he can get a hold of. Well for the last few months my underwear have dwindled down to hardly nothing. I refuse to go buy more because of a ill behaved dog eating them. I don't leave them on the floor either, he pulls them out of laundry baskets. This freaking dog is a damn Houdini. I told my husband that it is his dog so he is going to buy me more undies. Last night I went to bed complaining that the only pairs I have left are going up my ass and uncomfortable. I think I went on to cuss the dog again. I look up and Al is walking out of the bedroom. I said "hey where are you going, I was talking to you" his reply.............. "Oh I thought you would quit talking" LMAO ! Anyway I woke up this morning and Al told me he had a surprise sitting on my dresser. After he left for work I got up and found 6 new pair of undies~ He actually went to the store last night after I fell asleep and bought then for me. What a lucky lady I am :) Things like this remind me how truly blessed I am everyday to be married to such a amazing man. 

CD8 and my ovaries are throwing a party! I am so excited about this new cycle.  I thought after failed ivf attempts that everything was over. I mean ivf has the highest success rate and if you failed those, really what is left? I may have taken a huge step back, but I feel so great right now. I love the cost of this cycle $69 for femera, trigger shot and monitoring. I will continue with cheaper treatments with a huge smile on the money, pain and suffering I am saving :) Yay me!

Hope everyone has a great weekend! Stop by and show some love and support for Amanda  She is almost ready for transfer this weekend :) 

Also PLEASE go support my friend Leslie She is in beta hell right now. Hoping that her beta rises today and they find her baby on ultrasound next week. She is such a great person and truly deserves this.

Thursday, November 8, 2012


I had to wait for my husband to email me the doctor orders on our testing. Here is a list of what test we are having done next cycle.

Anti-throglobulin antibodies      Covered 100% by insurance
Thyroid peroxidase antibodies   Covered 100% by insurance
Prothrombin (factor II) mutation 
Karyotyping             Covered 100% by insurance
Protein C activity
Protein S activity
TSH                 Covered 100% by insurance
Antimullerian hormone     Covered 100% by insurance
Day 3 FSH          Covered 100% by insurance
Day 3 Estradiol   Covered 100% by insurance
Vitamin D3  Covered 100% by insurance

I guess from what he told  me, this is a general work up after recurrent losses. Almost all of my losses have been before 6 weeks expect for my first one back in 1999 and I was about 8 weeks then and had a blighted ovum. I am very interested to see if these test pick anything up. If they are come back normal then I know that there is absolutely no reason why we can't get pregnant. Yes it has been almost three years, but I stick to statistics that it will happen.

Btw I really love femera! I haven't had any of the nasty side effects with this like I did with clomid. Last night was last dose of it and I feel activity going on in my ovaries. I sure hope that I get more then one good follicle. If not, I will work with what I have :)

Wednesday, November 7, 2012

Some Things are....................

truly unexplained. As in in infertility. I had my consult today with Dr. H and it was a great meeting. I choose to see only the positive in my struggle from here on out. I am a text book example of secondary unexplained infertility. I used to look at this diagnosis with confusion and anger, wishing I had a solild reason for not being able to get pregnant. Well folks, there isn't anything. From today on out, instead of thinking about why I can't get pregnant, I am choosing to see this diagnosis as "there is NO reason why I can't get pregnant". Here are some of the questions and answers during our consult.

We did talk about the (3) chemical pregnancies and this last loss with ivf. He is going to run a complete reccurent pregnancy loss panel. This will consist on testing many different levels and also a karotype. He went on to say that everyone has chromosomal issues with embryos and that is the reason that early miscarriage occurs. The difference between us and a normal fertile person is, they don't know it's an early loss because they aren't testing at 10PO. I have read the statistics on chemical pregnancies before.  He knows that Al and I have decided not to do anymore ivf cycles. He thinks that the medicated iui's is not a step back and is a good choice do to the fact that there are no known issues with either of us. We are going to do (3) femera cycles with trigger and TI. Then on to Iui's with Follistim. 

I guess there isn't much to report until after all of our blood work has been done and returned. Karotyping can take up to 5 weeks. 

So I think this consult was a success. I can't expect certain answers to questions if there are no answers to be had. 


Today is CD6 and last day of Femera. I go in for ultrasound next Tuesday. 

Monday, November 5, 2012

Infertility Journey Facebook Page

I set up a new private group on facebook for all of us going through infertility, pregnant after infertility etc. I would love for any of my blogger followers to join. The main purpose of this page is to have another outlet to connect. I want to keep this page as positive and inspirational as possible. I will also put news articles and studies in regards to infertility related subjects.

If you want to join, it is Infertility Journey on facebook with a little white dove next to the name. Let me know if you have any problems finding it.

Sick of Negativity!

Is it possible for a person suffering through infertility (like me) to be absolutely fed up with negativity? If you are offended easily you may want to stop reading here and move on to another blog. I am going to piss in some cheerios today. Also if you feel this post is about you, please feel free to message me. I am a very honest person. I just don't want to call specific people out on a public forum. 

So here it goes.................................

I joined a  infertility facebook page a few months back because it was private and I wanted another place besides my blog to vent and meet new people going through this. I loved the Attain page, but facebook made changes and everything I posted on there started showing up on my friends news feeds. Not good, not good at all. At first there were only about 15 or 20 of us and I loved it so much. Great advice, support and a bunch of wonderful ladies. Now it had turned into a complete bitch, whine, who has bigger problems forum. There are a few ladies on the page that bitch 100% of the time. You think at the beginning of post it will actually be something postive for once and BAM more negative and whinning.  I know it is hard to believe, but I do consider myself a compassionate person for the most part. Now when I have to start reading post that are like watching freaking reruns that go like this:

  • I saw a girl the other day that is pregnant. Damn her to hell blah blah blah
  • My sister in law is pregnant again. Damn her to hell blah blah blah
  • My coworker is pregnant and she is only 20. Damn her to hell blah blah
We ALL know that regardless how painful infertility is, the world truly goes on, it really does. All the other woman in the world including, crack heads, teenagers, fertile myrtles, skinny woman, fat woman, black woman, white woman, Hispanic etc. they aren't going to stop having babies because 10% of us can't.  Geez if the world really worked like that!

Okay then other complaints from those of us like me that already have one child, either through birth or adoption. Why in the hell are you taking away from the young babies you have at home already to be on facebook 24/7 complaining you want kids naturally over the ones you adopted? Yes I get that we all want our own children, but if you have any kind of child under the age of 5 in your house right now, love them, love them, love them. Hell mine is 15 and I love her daily. I know that I was so  lucky to have been blessed with her!

Okay this is when it goes to far. I don't want to know that your husband is a shitty guy and your marriage is horrible, but you don't want to take logically advice like SEE A DAMN COUNSELOR! No, you want to buy him something to make things better? 

See this post has turned me into negative Nellie! I know that alot of you totally disagree with me and most of you feel that I shouldn't say anything due to the fact that I am suffering with secondary infertility. That is fine, you are welcome to your own opinions. I won't even argue that case right now. The only thing I want people to understand is.........................................


Instead of using 100% of your energy to be negative about everything, everyday, look around.

You are alive! That is more then some people can say. Shit be thankful for that, if not for anything else.

Saturday, November 3, 2012

1st Baby Quilt in Progress

Well I bought myself a sewing machine last week and let me tell you, I am a sewing machine virgin (big time). I am still messing with it and figuring out stitches and bobbing etc.  I ordered a charm kit the other day for a baby quilt, not only a baby quilt, but my 1st baby quilt. I sat down tonight and messed with all of it. I finally got my topper done. The seems are crooked and the stitches seem loose to me, but it is done. I did it! 

2nd step is to get backing and quilting. Wish me luck. I am pretty darn proud of myself tonight though :)

CD2 and a go

Went in this morning for my ultrasound and blood work. Lining was nice and thin at a 5. I had a corpeus luteum about 32mm on my right ovary. Doctor said it looked like I did in fact ovulate. I asked him about using femera since I have used clomid for a total of 8 cycles in the past and nothing. He wrote me a prescription  for 5mg a day for 5 days starting today. Then he asked if we wanted to do insemination this month and it was so hard for me to tell him no. I had to though because I agreed with Al that we would wait until next year for that. So I have my scripts for that and some progesterone. Going back on the 13th to make sure I ovulated. 

Also big appointment next week!

Friday, November 2, 2012

Quick Update

Dr. H office just called back and here are the words I hear on the phone " Tonisha your hcg is negative" They do want me to go in tomorrow morning for a baseline ultrasound before I start my clomid on Sunday.

I never thought this day would come!

Big Smile and Funny Friday

I'm so excited and I just can't hide it
I'm about to lose control and I think I like it
I'm so excited and I just can't hide it
And I know I know I know I know I know I want you

Yes the lyrics from I'm so excited by the  Pointer Sisters. Let me explain my pure bliss today.

CD1 (first since August 8th)
There is a party in my pants today and I am totally excited about it.

Yesterday at work I noticed cramping, backache and headache. I was also bleeding a little heavier then I have been for last few weeks. I went home to pee on sticks of course. My hcg strip was totally WHITE I even looked under different lights etc. and then the real test, my ovulation strip. It wasn't totally white, it did have a squinter of second line. I woke up this morning with my full period! This gal is back to cd1 and on the road to trying to conceive again. Day 3 I will start with my 100mg of clomid. I have my wtf appointment next week with Dr. H. I want to ask him about trying femera until we start injectable iui's in February.

IF you are still sticking with my over the top insane rave this morning, here is Funny Infertility Friday...

Thursday, November 1, 2012

Bad Drivers

Well most days I am mad that my husband doesn't read my blog, today I am happy. I am going to take a few minutes to rant and bitch about his driving skills. We both work downtown Oklahoma City and live about 30 miles away. On Mon, Wed, & Thu we carpool and he drives. Luckily traffic is pretty slow for about 15 miles from our house going into the city. Okay here are the two different ways he drives:
  • Sits in middle lane going well under speed limit and refuses to pass or go around slow vehicles. So we will be stuck behind the one slow car that is half a mile behind the rest of the traffic.                   (OR)
  •  We ride everyone asses all the way to work. When the car stops in front of us we ride up about a foot before hitting the bumper. This goes on and on until I drop him off to work or we get home. Also driving in the fast lane and not letting people merge in from a merging highway. It's not like they had the choice and they have to get over. 
I used to be very vocal about his approach on driving downtown and that led to dirty looks and a few short words to each other. Now I sit in passenger side and usually look at facebook or blogger. If it get to bad you might hear me say " Are you fucking serious!" yes that has come out of my mouth a few times. 

I haven't got to the best yet. He used to drive large trucks for a oxygen company. So course in heavy traffic etc. you put on your flashers. Well he does the same exact thing in my little Honda CRV and it irritates the holy hell out of me!  He will stop about 1,000 feet back and turn on hazard flashers and then proceed ahead about 5 miles per hour.

I know you are asking yourself, why not just drive myself? That is a great question. Even though I hate my husbands driving with a purple passion. I would have what some people refer to road rage. I can not deal with ignorance on the highway. If you tailgate me, I will break check your ass in two seconds. It gets a lot worse then that but I hope to have a few people not think I am bat shit crazy if I tell all of my driving issues. In my defense I have almost a perfect driving record. No accidents, one ticket when I was 16. Al tells me that I am going to get myself killed one day or someone else. I have tried breathing slowly and repeating to myself. "Tonisha don't worry about the assholes driving, get home safely" so all and all it might be safer for Al to drive us and I can just be irritated.  

Do any of you have to commute with your spouses to and from work? Any issues with your significant others driving skills?