Tuesday, April 28, 2015

Loss

It was mentioned to me many times that when you have a miscarriage, at least you are getting pregnant and you should be happy about that. Today my heart hearts for someone I know who just found out she lost her pregnancy. I think the hurt cuts even deeper when you finally do get pregnant and lose your baby.

I was personally touched by 6 miscarriages. Only one of them did I ever see the baby and the heartbeat, but I do remember all of my losses.


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7 comments:

  1. AmieApril 28, 2015 at 10:07 AM

    So sorry to hear of your friends loss. It's hard no matter what.

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  2. Elena @ baby Ridley bumpApril 28, 2015 at 12:29 PM

    So sorry girl! I've only ever experienced one and it was so early, 4 weeks, that I didn't get to experience much of pregnancy. I do hold that pregnancy near to my heart as I have gotten pregnant once, but it is never easy no matter how early or late the loss is. Prayers to you and your friend.

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  3. LaraApril 28, 2015 at 12:43 PM

    I think the notion that "when you have a miscarriage, at least you are getting pregnant and you should be happy about that" is so, so wrong. Thinking of your friend as she copes with such a huge loss.

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  4. MelissaApril 28, 2015 at 3:23 PM

    That's kind of an ignorant thing to say, at least you got pregnant. When someone has suffered a loss, it's the last thing they should have to hear. I'm sorry for your friend. I've had two friends miscarry this week and it just breaks my heart.

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  5. HeidiApril 29, 2015 at 11:17 AM

    I too remember my losses with sorrow in my heart and joy that I have Kyle. I am so sorry for this friend too. It breaks my heart for her.

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  6. Lyndsey DavisApril 29, 2015 at 9:11 PM

    Please tell your friend I'm so sorry and I will pray for healing. If I could choose between not getting pregnant and miscarrying, I'd pick a BFN every time. I don't know why people say such stupid things.

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  7. AmberMay 2, 2015 at 11:36 AM

    When I did my first IVF and had a chemical pregnancy, I did take comfort in the fact that at least I COULD get pregnant, which is something we never knew would be possible. However, it would never have been a comforting thought when I had my miscarriage at 9 weeks. It wouldn't have been a comfort if I had multiple chemicals either. So I see both sides of it, because I myself have taken comfort that I COULD get pregnant. Having someone else tell you that though, is just wrong. Miscarriages suck, plain and simple, no matter what.

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