tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3972147694312541271.post7494861923640105591..comments2023-05-16T04:49:49.276-05:00Comments on Life After Infertility: Pregnancy should be celebratedJust Thttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06315564549299993908noreply@blogger.comBlogger16125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3972147694312541271.post-40512083451440203742014-02-11T04:52:18.981-06:002014-02-11T04:52:18.981-06:00I had no idea the blogger you were referring to, b...I had no idea the blogger you were referring to, but curiosity killed the cat.... It didn't take much for me to guess who it was and I was right. Found the post. I really don't understand her perspective. I'm sure there are some pregnant women that are annoying, but I would guess that they were probably annoying before. But to baldly say we shouldn't talk about our pregnancies, share u/s pics, etc - well, I would think she would be proud of her own baby and want to share pics. And to ask a pregnant woman to not talk about what's going with the pregnancy is ridiculous. I found that while I was pregnant, that was almost the only thing that anybody else WANTED to talk about, even when I didn't! I'm sitting here shaking my head bc she also stated that we shouldn't blog so much about our pregnancy. I'm sorry, but I LOVE when an infertility blog transitions to a pregnancy blog and then parenting. Yes, I enjoy reading about other aspects of their lives as well. But after following someone's struggle and cheering them on through infertility, I don't want the story to end when they get pregnant! I want to know how it goes! I want to see those babies! Besides that, reading through other's pregnancy stories, really helped me through my pregnancy, just like reading about someone else's IVF. It helped to know you weren't alone and to learn what to expect. All these blogs I read...I consider all these bloggers my friends! Tell me what's going on in your life!Amberhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16507432917936364757noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3972147694312541271.post-91708907718001437222014-02-07T09:07:44.890-06:002014-02-07T09:07:44.890-06:00I know what blog you speak of and I chose to unfol...I know what blog you speak of and I chose to unfollow. There is a lot of negativity that I just don't care to be a part of anymore. Janet Off Kilterhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18064947474835725800noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3972147694312541271.post-17973240308091535792014-02-06T11:39:16.002-06:002014-02-06T11:39:16.002-06:00I know the post you're talking about and had m...I know the post you're talking about and had mixed feelings about it too. On one hand, I think the message about being mindful about one's pregnancy around those still in the trenches is always good. But the whole tone and execution have me pause. Mainly because of the underlying bitterness that was so evident.<br /><br />The truth is shitheads are able to achieve pregnancy as well as wonderful people. Hence it's no surprise that they act the way they do. The question becomes, why surround yourself with those people? I know plenty of wonderful people who were pregnant while I was in the trenches and though at times it was hard, i was genuinely happy for them because they were just awesome. Similarly, there were those who I knew I had to distance myself from more as I already had a hard enough time with them. Pregnancy was just another phase for each of them, not an attitude changer.<br /><br />Your point about being able to celebrate is an important one. I struggled with this mainly because I was so worried about losing the Beats and because of my own issues with being worthy, but the times that I did allow myself to celebrate have me the strength to face what lay ahead and has reminded me of why we went through all the craziness of treatment. <br /><br />Thank you, as always, for this wisdom. After all, if you can celebrate these milestones and/or allow others to too, what in the world are you living for? And why are you bringing children into that environment?<br />Cristyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04317873211902543387noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3972147694312541271.post-9759631713621585912014-02-05T23:35:58.137-06:002014-02-05T23:35:58.137-06:00Have I told you this?? I really appreciate your p...Have I told you this?? I really appreciate your perspective. It's one thing to be sensitive, careful, and compassionate...to consider your words before you say or type them. But it is a whole different thing to restrict oneself from embracing joy in their own life under what I would guess is the guise of "consideration" for others. Sad for her, but proud of you for posting this. When I turned to blogs for support in my journey, some of the most helpful blogs I stumbled across were the ones where I could read someone's whole journey...through the misery and the yuck of infertility to the hope on the other side...via pregnancy, adoption, whatever. I was never offended when people rejoiced, because to me it was reassurance that someday I could feel so much better. Wishing you the best!Kelseyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02475215174723439229noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3972147694312541271.post-48844052310989744192014-02-05T15:26:09.998-06:002014-02-05T15:26:09.998-06:00I completely agree! Celebrate away! Shout it from ...I completely agree! Celebrate away! Shout it from the roof tops, scream it out in the middle of the streets! I know for certain when my someday happens, I will be sure to tell all I know and give God the glory for my miracle! Pregnancies should always be celebrated!Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04881435779231406319noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3972147694312541271.post-27601356797279804492014-02-05T15:23:06.201-06:002014-02-05T15:23:06.201-06:00So agree!! The women battling with infertility who...So agree!! The women battling with infertility who get to that place should celebrate it as much and as often as they want to. No one forces anyone to read their blog or have them as a friend on facebook if they can't handle it.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01922083230051178843noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3972147694312541271.post-62671905604061764482014-02-05T13:41:23.139-06:002014-02-05T13:41:23.139-06:00I know which post you are referring to and was a b...I know which post you are referring to and was a bit disturbed when I read it. It also angers me, especially when I read the comments, because I find that it makes us infertile appear bitter and resentful towards those who succeed in getting pregnant, when it's not the case at all. Kicking infertility's butt is a reason to rejoice and if a woman wants to celebrate by posting bump pictures and regular update, it's her choice. It's a personal journey and we can share it any way we want to. Readers are free to follow or not. Diva Mhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14366753425108999877noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3972147694312541271.post-4747824623286936472014-02-05T13:17:55.809-06:002014-02-05T13:17:55.809-06:00I'm so glad you wrote this. I read the post an...I'm so glad you wrote this. I read the post and was saddened that she felt that way. She has the right to feel that way, but I don't think she needs to write a post to tell *other* people how to handle their pregnancies after infertility. Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01922083230051178843noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3972147694312541271.post-23546771445425979522014-02-05T13:11:21.716-06:002014-02-05T13:11:21.716-06:00I completely agree! Thank you for writing this :)I completely agree! Thank you for writing this :)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3972147694312541271.post-55796740966007470042014-02-05T12:54:47.242-06:002014-02-05T12:54:47.242-06:00I agree 100%. I didn't see the post you are ta...I agree 100%. I didn't see the post you are talking about but I think after everything we go through to get pregnant we should be able to embrace and celebrate it. I write my blog mainly for myself so I wanted to document everything exactly as it was. We all deserve that right. Lizhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16622876789284884234noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3972147694312541271.post-23766597696920294972014-02-05T12:25:18.220-06:002014-02-05T12:25:18.220-06:00I wouldn't have any friends online if I follow...I wouldn't have any friends online if I followed this person's "advice." I was apprehensive at first (on my blog mostly) but then I realized I fought and I fought hard for this pregnancy, so I was going to document every little thing I felt like. Everyone has a choice to read or not and that doesn't make a bad friend if they don't. When they're ready, they'll come back and catch up. I lived that for a loooong time.Laurahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02925045129791741306noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3972147694312541271.post-78168642674199727762014-02-05T12:16:11.849-06:002014-02-05T12:16:11.849-06:00I totally hear you. Everyone should celebrate our...I totally hear you. Everyone should celebrate our bodies, and how they are nurturing a baby!!!! It's so beautiful!!!. It sounds like she is very very afraid of embracing her baby. Wow this breaks my heart so much:((. Bhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04080529677449655463noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3972147694312541271.post-89409365775044609832014-02-05T11:46:57.497-06:002014-02-05T11:46:57.497-06:00I have to say, I have never understood this. Howev...I have to say, I have never understood this. However I feel when reading about or seeing someone's pregnancy, those are MY emotions. Stemmed from MY infertility. I can't expect them to know or understand what I'm feeling, and therefore how can I expect them to be able to predict what might hurt or offend me? I take it all with a grain of salt. On my hardest days, I just lay low and avoid the places I know these will be. But I have to say, even in my worst moments, I would never begrudge a woman her right to celebrate and share her pregnancy..it's an exciting and wonderful time and I generally share in the excitement of this new phase in their lives! If I do find it's too much for me, I would stop looking or listening or talking until I feel more up to it. There's nothing wrong with celebrating your pregnancy, but there's also nothing wrong with stepping back because you're going through something darker than that and need some time to gather your thoughts and emotions. I think more Kindness is needed. It's hard to be Infertile, and sometimes it's hard to be pregnant, and I think most of the time it's hard to be infertile and pregnant - and if we all just showed a bit of compassion and kindness it might not be so hard after all. Rachelhttp://www.positive-peach.blogspot.canoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3972147694312541271.post-55758959780286276802014-02-05T11:40:53.395-06:002014-02-05T11:40:53.395-06:00I get the basic reasoning behind not wanting to ce...I get the basic reasoning behind not wanting to celebrate too loudly while others you've gone close to are still struggling. To me, becoming pregnant has felt a tiny bit like I just escaped being captured by an enemy in war, and my best comrade is being held captive and tortured. I don't want to send her letters saying how great it is to be safely at home with giant !!! ya know? But at the same time, I'm going to celebrate a little too. I think there's a way to handle announcements with some tact and not go totally overboard so you can celebrate and also be compassionate to others' feelings. I really love that you are sticking up for the preggos, even while you're not. That just says A LOT about your character and what an amazing woman you are!Emilyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07415140299306373048noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3972147694312541271.post-67436066400428726372014-02-05T11:39:31.887-06:002014-02-05T11:39:31.887-06:00Thank you for posting this. I read the post you ar...Thank you for posting this. I read the post you are talking about and I couldn't figure out how someone can be so hateful and negative. I am 38 years old and pregnant after fighting infertility.. I am sensitive to others for sure but I am not going to deny myself the joy and excitement that I feel for these babies. <br /><br />It was unbelievable to me that she posted that.. And then on top of it asked other people to chime in?!Mrs. Losthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12581889035592514779noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3972147694312541271.post-69182656442328546932014-02-05T10:57:37.833-06:002014-02-05T10:57:37.833-06:00I have never understand why people are afraid to c...I have never understand why people are afraid to celebrate being pregnant because of other infertiles. You don't have to throw it in someone's face, but I would never want to look back and regret not being happy for what is such a small amount of time. Shari https://www.blogger.com/profile/13391623826400056909noreply@blogger.com